The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k – Sarah Knight
12th January 2016, 224 pages, 4/5 stars
How to stop spending time you don’t have doing things you don’t want to with people you don’t like.
Please note that this review will contain swearing. Stop reading if that will offend your delicate disposition. I have warned you, and hereafter I won’t give a f**k about your sensibilities – just as Sarah preaches.
Sarah Knight’s book fell into my lap at exactly the right time. I have begun to feel overwhelmed – I have a new job, it’s my last year of university, and there have been some family and relationship issues for me to work through. Sarah (I feel like we’re on first-name terms) has reminded me that there are more important things to worry about than that which we cannot change.
Sarah explains that we each have a Fuck Budget – we only have a certain number of fucks to give to the things in our lives, and we should allocate those to the good things! Taking her cue from Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, Sarah has named her techniques the NotSorry Method in reference to the KonMari method of tidying. I loved all the little references which make sense for readers of both books; but you can still learn a lot if you have not read Kondo’s tidying bible.
There are four categories of potential fuck-giving:
- Friends, Acquaintances, and Strangers
You should work through these in the order Sarah recommends, as your feelings become more complicated from top to bottom.
Some of the things on Sarah’s No Fucks Given list, for example, in relation to work include:
- Conference Calls
- Dress Codes
- Useless Paperwork
- Polar bears and half-marathons (read the book to understand this one!)
Family is obviously the most difficult category for which to give no fucks. Sarah notes that guilt is very closely tied into familial obligation.
She says on page 105:
Of course, I can’t claim to absolve you of all guilty inclinations towards your family – that’s what prescription benzodiazepines are for – but this section of the book will help you determine which aspects of your family life are truly fuck-worthy and/or non-negotiable.
And it is that funny all the way through! I loved her pun on page 167, citing her FUQs – Frequently Uttered Questions. (Read it aloud if you don’t get it! 😛 )
There are pages on which you can write down the things for which you do or don’t want to give a fuck. It is a very easy, fast read, with lots of giggles – it can easily be achieved in just one sitting, but you’ll want to dip back into it multiple times.
I’m still working through my list of fucks to give/not give, but I can’t wait to start living my enlightened life, allocating my limited number of fucks to the things I actually want to be doing. (Unfortunately I really want a degree, so I still have to give fucks about my university classes…)
The surprising art of caring less and getting more.
Are you stressed out, overbooked, and underwhelmed by life? Fed up with pleasing everyone else before you please yourself? Then it’s time to stop giving a f**k.
This irreverent and practical book explains how to rid yourself of unwanted obligations, shame, and guilt – and give your f**ks instead to people and things that make you happy.
From family dramas to having a bikini body, the simple NotSorry Method for mental decluttering will help you unleash the power of not giving a f**k and will free you to spend your time, energy and money on the things that really matter.
What do you give a fuck about? What would be on the no-fucks-given list?